(Mishnah): The following vows may be annulled - vows of Inuy Nefesh (affliction), e.g. 'if I will bathe', or 'if I will not bathe'; 'if I will adorn myself', or 'if I will not adorn myself ';

R. Yosi: These are not vows of Inuy Nefesh.

(Gemara) Question: It is written "Kol Neder v'Chol Shevu'as Isar Le'anos Nafesh." This teaches only Nedarim that have Inuy Nefesh. What is the source for Nedarim between him and her?

Answer: "Bein Ish l'Ishto"

Question: This teaches about [Hafaras] ha'Ba'al. What is the source that a father [can annul Nidrei Inuy Nefesh]?

Answer: It says "Bein Ish l'Ishto Bein Av l'Bito" - just like a husband annuls only vows of Inuy Nefesh and vows between him and her, also a father annuls only vows of Inuy Nefesh and vows between him and her. (ME'IRI (79a) - 'between him and her' are matters that affect Bi'ah. This does not apply to a father! Rather, this limitation for a father applies only to an Arusah (between him and her is between the Arus and Arusah)', but a Penuyah, he can annul all vows, like the Rambam says.) KESER HA'MELECH (Hilchos Nedarim 12:1) says that 'between him and her' include 'Konam, you may not benefit from my labor.'

Note: Since a father can annul an Arusah's vows only with the Arus, since the Arus can annul only Inuy Nefesh or matters between him and her, what is the relevance of whether the father can annul other vows? We can say that it affects when the Arus dies and the father receives full authority, or if annulling his share exempts from lashes. (PF)

(R. Yakov bar Acha): R. Yochanan and Reish Lakish argued. R. Yochanan says, both Nedarim and Shevu'os, a husband can annul them. Reish Lakish says, he can annul Nedarim, but not Shevu'os. (It says "...v'Chol Shevu'as Isar... Ishah Yekimenu v'Ishah Yeferenu"! Perhaps Reish Lakish refers to a Shevu'ah with Hash-m's name; we do not permit them, like R. Yosi below. It is better to say that he explains "Shevu'as Isar" to be Isar in an expression of a Shevu'ah, but it is not a real Shevu'ah, like TOSFOS (Shevu'os 20a DH Isar - SHIREI KORBAN).

Note: SHIREI KORBAN questioned Reish Lakish from a Beraisa 1:b that says that Mivta is Shevu'ah. Reish Lakish can explain that it means that it is like a Shevu'ah, to say that Ein Shevu'ah Chal Al Shevu'ah, like R. Yosi explains there! Perhaps Reish Lakish's source is that except for the above verse, the Torah discusses Hafarah or Kiyum only of Neder and Isar, but not of Shevu'ah (Bamidbar 30:5,6,8,9,12,13,15)! (PF)

(R. Yosi bei R. Bun): Also about Hataras Nedarim of a Chacham, R. Yochanan and Reish Lakish argued. R. Yochanan says, both Nedarim and Shevu'os, a Chacham can permit. Reish Lakish says, a Chacham can permit Nedarim, but a Chacham cannot permit Shevu'os.

Reish Lakish holds like the case of R. Yosi;

A man came to permit a vow in front of R. Yosi. R. Yosi wore a Talis and sat, and said 'what did you swear about?'

The man: [I swore by] the G-d of Yisrael that [my wife] will not enter my house.

R. Yosi: [You swore by] the G-d of Yisrael! [We do not permit this,] and she will not enter your house.