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What was her reply?
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Malbim: You cannot permit it, for you do not regret the vow from the beginning, only now [that I came out first]. Through the vow, Hashem took vengeance against your enemy. 1
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Malbim: She erred. In any case, he regrets now, so he can permit it from now and onwards! (This seems like the opinion that allows permitting vows via Nolad (later developments that one could not have anticipated). We rule like Chachamim, who forbid (Nedarim 9:2)! Why did Malbim not say that she erred, for he should have realized that perhaps a person will leave first? - PF)
