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1. The Gemara explains that for a poor person, even Shabbos and Yom Tov meals are considered bad.
2. The Mishnah discusses the custom of sending presents to one's father-in-law the day after his Kidushin.
3. The Mishnah says that if the groom ate a Dinar's worth of food at his father-in-law's house, the groom forgoes the gifts that he gave in the event that the marriage is not consummated.
4. Rebbi Acha: There is a difference between gifts that are made to be used up, and gifts that are made to last.
5. If a person is in the middle of testing his wife to see if he should divorce her, or if he is fighting with her, he does not inherit her.
A BIT MORE
1. Even though most poor people manage to have a good meal on Shabbos and Yom Tov, since it is so different from their daily diet during the week it often causes intestinal illness.
2. The custom was to send his wife (who was still living at her father's house until Nisu'in) jewelry, fruits, etc. The groom would usually come to the house as well, and eat a festive meal together with his bride.
3. In other words, even if the marriage subsequently is dissolved before it reaches Nisu'in, since he had some benefit from his father-in-law he forgoes the gifts. However, if the groom had less than a Dinar's benefit at his father-in-law's house, the groom may claim the gifts back.
4. Gifts that are meant to be used up cannot be claimed if the marriage does not reach Nisu'in, while gifts that are made to last may be claimed.
5. There is a dispute among the Rishonim about whether this applies is only before Nisu'in or even after Nisu'in.
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