3) REBUKE
(a) (Beraisa) Suggestion: Perhaps "Lo Sisna Es Achicha bi'Levavecha" forbids to hit, slap, or curse (Rashi - when rebuking for transgressions)!
1. Rejection: "Bi'Lvavecha" teaches that only hatred (concealed) in the heart is forbidden (Rambam - due to this Lav; Rashi - when rebuking).
2. Question: What is the source that if one sees someone do something improper, he must rebuke him?
3. Answer: It says "Hoche'ah Tochi'ach."
4. Question: What is the source that if he did not accept the rebuke, he must rebuke him again?
5. Answer: It says "Tochi'ach", in any case.
6. Suggestion: Perhaps this is even if the transgressor will blush from embarrassment!
7. Rejection: It says "v'Lo Sisa Alav Chet."
(b) R. Tarfon: I would be amazed if there was anyone in this generation that can receive (Shitah Mekubetzes - give) rebuke:
1. If Ploni would rebuke Almoni for a small transgression, Almoni would rebuke Ploni for a great transgression.
(c) R. Elazar ben Azaryah: I would be amazed if there was anyone in this generation that knows how to (properly) rebuke.
(d) R. Yochanan ben Nuri: I testify about R. Akiva. Often he was lashed due to me, for I told R. Gamliel about his misconduct, and he loved me more for this - "Al Tochach Letz Pen Yisna'echa Hochah l'Chacham v'Ye'ehavecha." (Ben Yehoyada - R. Akiva often came late to the Beis Medrash because he was reviewing his learning, but he did not say so. It was the custom to hit Talmidim who came late.)
(e) Question (R. Yehudah brei d'R. Shimon ben Pazi): Which is better - rebuke Lishmah (l'Shem Shamayim), or humility Lo Lishmah? (One refrains from rebuking, lest it arouse hatred (Rashi; Sefas Emes - lest he be rebuked for his sins; Tzon Kodashim - for he does not want to make himself above the transgresser. Tosfos - humility Lo Lishmah is acting humbly to become respected.)
(f) Answer (R. Shimon ben Pazi): You admit that humility Lishmah is better than rebuke. It was taught that humility is greater than all the levels in Avodas Hash-m;
1. Therefore, also humility Lo Lishmah is better!
2. (Rav Yehudah): One should always engage in Torah and Mitzvos even Lo Lishmah, for this will lead him to do them Lishmah.
(g) Question: What is an example of (a choice between) rebuke Lishmah and humility Lo Lishmah?
(h) Answer: Rav Huna illustrates this:
1. Rav Huna and Chiya bar Rav were sitting in front of Shmuel. Chiya complained "see how Rav Huna is paining me!"
2. Rav Huna agreed not to pain him again.
3. After Chiya left, Rav Huna told Shmuel that he pained Chiya due to transgressions.
4. Shmuel: Why didn't you tell me in front of him?
5. Rav Huna: I did not want to (give rebuke Lishmah, for it would) embarrass the seed of (my Rebbi,) Rav. (Rather, he refrained from rebuke, Lo Lishmah.)
(i) Question: To what extent must one rebuke?
(j) Answer #1 (Rav): One must rebuke until the point that the transgresser is ready to hit him.
(k) Answer #2 (Shmuel): One must rebuke until the transgresser is ready to curse him.
(l) Answer #3 (R. Yochanan): One must rebuke until the transgresser gets angry.
(m) Tana'im argue like the Amora'im do;
1. (Beraisa - R. Eliezer): One must rebuke until the transgresser is ready to hit him;
2. R. Yehoshua says, he must rebuke until he is ready to curse him;
3. Ben Azai says, he must rebuke until he gets angry.
(n) All of them learn from "va'Yichar Af Sha'ul bi'Yehonason... va'Yatel Sha'ul Es ha'Chanis Lehakoso";
1. The three opinions learn from, respectively, "Lehakoso," "l'Voshtecha ul'Voshes Ervas Imecha"; and "va'Yichar Af Sha'ul."
(o) Question (against the third opinion): Even after Sha'ul was angry, Yonason rebuked him to the point of hitting and cursing!
(p) Answer: R. Yonason loved David exceedingly, therefore he rebuked his father (for wanting to kill David for no reason) more than one is required to.
4) CHANGE
(a) Question: How much must one endure before changing his lodging?
(b) Answer #1 (Rav): He should not change until the host is ready to hit;
(c) Answer #2 (Shmuel): He should not change until the host is preparing to throw his belongings outside.
(d) They do not argue if the host is ready to hit him or throw his belongings outside. (Surely, this is grounds to change.) They argue about if the host is ready to hit his wife. (Seemingly, it refers to the host's wife. However, R. Gershom, and Rashi in Ein Yakov, explain that it refers to the guest's wife.)
1. Shmuel says that this is not grounds to change, since the guest himself is not affected;
2. Rav says that this is grounds to change, lest he come to quarrel with the host.
(e) Question: Why should one endure so much before changing his lodging?
(f) Answer: Changing reflects badly on the host and guest (that they could not get along).
1. Question (Rav Yehudah): What is the source that one should not change his host?
2. Answer #1 (Rav Yehudah): We learn from "Ad ha'Makom Asher Hayah Sham Ohalo ba'Techilah";
3. Answer #2 (R. Yosi b'Rebbi Chanina): We learn from "va'Yelech l'Masa'av."
4. Question: (Both learn from Avraham.) What is the difference between these answers?
5. Answer: They argue about whether one must try to avoid changing a incidental (chance) lodging. (R. Yosi is concerned. Rav Yehudah is concerned only for fixed lodgings, like "Ohalo".)
(g) (R. Yochanan): One should not change from his (father's) profession and that of his ancestors. "Chiram mi'Tzor Ben Ishah Almanah Hu mi'Mateh Naftali v'Aviv Ish Tzori Choresh Nechoshes" made copper Kelim for Bayis Rishon;
1. It was taught that his mother was from Dan, the Shevet of Ohali'av, who helped Betzalel to build the Mishkan and its Kelim. (Maharsha - since it already says that he was from Naftali, surely his mother is mentioned to teach that he continued in the profession of his maternal ancestors.)
5) AFFLICTIONS
(a) Question: What is the smallest suffering that is considered affliction?
(b) Answer #1 (R. Elazar): If a garment was made for someone and it does not fit him, this is Yesurim.
(c) Objection (Rava Ze'ira): Even less than this is Yesurim!
(d) Answer #2 (Rava Ze'ira): Even if one intended to mix wine with warm water, and mistakenly mixed it with cold, or vice-versa, this is is considered Yesurim;
(e) Answer #3 (Mar brei d'Ravina): Even if his cloak was inside out when he (R. Gershom - was about to) put it on and he must reverse it, this is Yesurim;
(f) Answer #4 (Rava): Even if his put his hand into his wallet to take three coins and he mistakenly took only two, this is Yesurim;
1. This is only if he wanted to take three coins and got two, for he must he put his hand in again. However, if he wanted to take two and took three, it is no exertion to throw one of them back in.

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