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1. There is a dispute about whether the Kidushin money given to a woman belongs to her even if he eventually does not marry her (i.e. with Nisu'in).
2. The Gemara discusses five laws of Shushbinus (people who commit to give each other wedding presents for their, and/or their children's, marriages).
3. These presents may be demanded only from the date of the wedding (not earlier).
4. Shemitah does not remit away a commitment to Shushbinus.
5. The Gemara cites many explanations of the verse, "All the days of a poor person are bad, and it is always good to have a happy heart."
A BIT MORE
1. In those days, they would first do Kidushin, and only after a long time (twelve months) they would do Nisu'in. If Kidushin is done only for the sake of the eventual Nisu'in, then if a woman dies before Nisu'in, her family should give back the Kidushin money.
2. For example, this is the type of commitment that a Beis Din may force a person to honor.
3. There is no prohibition of Ribis when it comes to Shushbinus. Therefore, even if a person gave to his Shushbin presents first, the Shushbin may give more expensive presents back.
4. Accordingly, if Reuven and Shimon have a Shushbinus agreement, and Reuven gives Shimon wedding presents before Shemitah, Shimon cannot evade giving Reuven wedding presents even if his wedding is after Shemitah.
5. Some say that the first part of the verse refers to one who has a bad wife, and the second part of the verse refers to one who has a good wife. Others say that the first part of the verse refers to a finicky person, while the second part of the verse refers to one who is not finicky at all.
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