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A Besulah marries on Wednesday, and a widow marries on Thursday. (1)
The Chasan must support his Arusah if the scheduled date for the marriage has passed. If he is a Kohen, she may begin to eat Terumah. (2)
A Besulah does not get married on Sunday so that they should have three days for the preparation of the wedding feast.
If the end of twelve months of Eirusin falls on a Sunday, since the Chasunah cannot be held until Wednesday, the Chasan is exempt from providing support (Mezonos) to the Kalah.
If the Chasan or Kalah falls ill, or if the Kalah becomes a Nidah, and the marriage must be pushed off past the end of twelve months, the Chasan is exempt from Mezonos. (3)
An Ones (unavoidable occurrence) does not affect the status of a Get. (4)
If someone gives a Get on condition that if he does not return in twelve months the Get should go into effect, and then he dies, it is not a valid Get. (5)
A Get cannot go into effect after the death of the husband.
Rebbi Yosi rules that the date in a document indicates that the document should go into effect retroactively from that date.
If a man gives a Get on condition that if he does not return within 30 days it should go into effect, even if he is delayed by a discontinued ferry service the Get is valid.
A BIT MORE
1. A Besulah marries on Wednesday, because Ezra decreed that Beis Din sits in the city on Mondays and Thursdays, and if the husband has a claim that she was not a Besulah he can go to Beis Din the next morning and make a claim.
2. Twelve months after the Eirusin is the time for the marriage. The Rabanan decreed that an Arusah may not eat Terumah even though her Chasan is a Kohen, but once twelve months have passed she may eat Terumah.
3. According to an alternate version in the Gemara, it is a Safek whether the Chasan is exempt from Mezonos in a case where an Ones (unavoidable occurrence) caused the wedding to be delayed past the end of twelve months.
4. If a man gives a Get on condition that if he does not return by a specific date the Get should go into effect, even if an Ones prevents him from returning on time the Get is valid .
5. The Get cannot go into effect once twelve months have passed, because by that time he is no longer alive.
THE MARRIAGE OF A WIDOW
The Mishnah says that a Besulah marries on Wednesday, because if the husband has a claim that she was not a Besulah he can go to Beis Din the next morning and make a claim. Why does the Mishnah not give any reason for why a widow marries on Thursday? The Ramban answers that it is not a Takanas Chachamim that a widow must get married on Thursday and not on any other day; rather, it merely is recommended to get married on Thursday because of the reason of the blessing that was given to the fish on that day of Creation, or because of the reason that the Chachamim want the Chasan to spend three days with his new wife. However, if the Chasan does not mind forfeiting the blessing and does not have a job that will prevent him from spending the next three days with his wife, they may get married on a different day. For a Besulah, however, the Chachamim decreed that a Besulah must get married on Wednesday and they are prohibited from getting married on a different day, even during a time of persecution.
MARRIAGE ON WEDNESDAY
In a place that the Minhag is for the Beis Din to sit in judgment only on Mondays and Thursdays, a Besulah gets married on Wednesday so that if the Chasan has a claim regarding her Besulim, he may go immediately the next morning to Beis Din. It is a Minhag from the Chachamim that one who marries a widow gets married on Thursday so that he can rejoice with her for three days: Thursday, Friday, and Shabbos, before he goes out to work on Sunday. It is a Minhag to get married in the beginning of the month until when the moon is still full. (Shulchan Aruch EH 64:3)
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